You've probably heard the term BDSM in sex several times, also known by its more popular name "sadism". And if you are also looking for this sexual fetish then you have come to the right place! In Rung Rung's first blog post about this BDSM series, you will be provided with all the basic knowledge needed for SLAVE training.
Before starting with the main content, let's clarify with Rung Rung some terms used throughout this article!
What is Slave Training in BDSM?
Slave, also known as slave, must completely obey the person who owns the Master (also known as master). This training is designed so that Masters (owners) can make Slaves do what they want
Training? In a relationship?
That's right, most Slaves really enjoy giving up all power and belonging to the Master, Slaves also really want to know what they need to do and when. Through the training process, the Slave does not need to think much, just act and listen to the commands and signals that have been given before
As for the Master, training will help orient your Slave to the "style" you want most, and at the same time listen and obey you
This training is also extremely important for setting limits and rules. Because during this time, the Slave can discover things that they hate or like to do. The Master can also improve his domination skills.
How to train a Slave
The important thing to repeat 3 times: To start training a slave, the first step you need is... Slave. Rung Rung will consider you already have it.
Training requires investing time and effort: Understanding yourself, about Slaves, effective communication and appropriate training plans
Here are some key steps that Rung Vim suggests so you can achieve the best results
- Determine the type of Slave you desire
- Discuss limitations and desires
- Teach Slave about positions
- Penalty
- Mark ownership
Step 1: Determine the type of Slave you want
Each Master (owner) has his own taste, not everyone is the same. So the first thing the Master needs to do is determine the Slave model that you like best.
Is your favorite slave model an obedient slave who always obeys, never talks back, is a "property" that belongs to you and you can do whatever you like ?
Maybe you like a "chaotic" Slave who argues every time you give orders and requests, and won't listen until you're "punished"?
Or simply just be your Slave at night and in bed. Other times, the two of you are a normal loving couple.
Set up “covenants”
“Covenants” can be understood as behaviors, habits, etc. that you want the Slave to do in this relationship (Of course there must be consent from the Slave)
Examples of “covenants”:
- Slave is not allowed to masturbate without the consent of the Master.
- Slave is not allowed to share a bed with a new Master until he has asked for advice
- Before QH, Slave must do something specific for Master
Step 2: Talk to your partner
After determining the type of Slave you want, the next step is to listen to the wishes and desires of the other person. Just because the other person is a Slave doesn't mean you can do whatever you want. Because after leaving our roles, we are all normal people who need to be loved. Especially when you are a Master, you need to clearly know your responsibility for keeping your Slave safe and not causing harm.
Rung Rung would like to suggest what you should discuss with your partner.
- Slave hates/cannot accept anything
- Discuss Slave fantasies. What makes them excited and satisfied?
- Discuss the Slave's desires. What does she really need? Which aspect do you want to be satisfied?
Some slaves will not know or be afraid to express their wishes. As a Master, you need to learn those things, don't force them, and especially DON'T FORGET!
The more clearly we understand our partner's desires, the more interesting the game will be. For example: If a slave likes to be beaten, what whip should he use? How many? If you are the Master, force the Slave to overcome his limits. If you are a Slave, try to use your body to enhance and satisfy the Master's experience.
Step 3: Teach Slave positions and commands
After you two have set the limits and rules, let's get into the main part of training the Slave. Start with posture commands.
Some common positions in Slave training are:
Stand. The slave will stand straight on both feet, arms behind his back, head bowed, waiting for the next command
Sit. Slave sits cross-legged
Kneel. Slave kneels, bows, kneels as high or as low as you like
Take off. Take off what you're wearing. Or lift your skirt, lift your shirt, etc. It's up to you to edit the command
Open. Scale opens his legs regardless of his position. For example, if the Slave is kneeling, the "open" command will force the Slave to open his legs and reveal his "pussy". Allows the Master to observe, examine, examine, etc.
You can freely create and adjust many different commands to best suit both of you!
In the beginning, it is normal for the Slave to not remember all of your commands, but if it has been several weeks and still does not remember, you can apply a "punishment".
Step 4: Penalty
A slave who doesn't do well or doesn't do what you want should be punished. Punishments should be within the allowable limits that you and Slave agreed upon in advance. For example: spanking the ass until it bruises (but absolutely no bleeding) if the Slave is ok with that.
Most Slaves enjoy being tortured and mistreated a little like having their ass spanked. So these types of punishments are often ineffective, don't confuse punishment with reward. Punishment is when you show the Slave what they are doing wrong and what needs to be corrected.
Example:
- Punishment of not being allowed to play for 1 day and not being allowed to receive the Master's stick
- Punishment of not using the phone for 3 hours and facing the wall
- If the slave has a hobby of getting a blowjob or footjob, you can punish the slave by prohibiting him from doing this, or banning him from using his tongue but only using his face, not licking the whole thing but only a small part.
Step 5: Wear the necklace
To show sovereignty and ownership, the Slave must wear a necklace. Demonstrate that Slave is your own "property", "item", that you own and have full control over.
The collar does not have to be the type of leather strap that people often use in common BDSM toys, but can be changed to many other types. In many other cases. For example:
- A normal jewelry necklace. But it's a "covenant" that marks the Master's ownership (only the two of you know). Suggesting a pendant engraved with the Master's name is even better
- Leather necklaces are often seen when it's just the two of you together
- Pet's bracelet
After passing the training course, a "graduated" Slave will be given a necklace by his Master as a way to mark his supreme sovereignty.
If you have read this far, congratulations, you have equipped yourself with the most basic knowledge you need to know for your Slave - BDSM training journey. But remember, there are no right or wrong answers. There is only one that is truly right for you and your relationship.
