It's understandable to feel anxious about getting ready for anal sex due to a lot of misleading information that portrays it as unclean, uncomfortable, and even hazardous. Even the most adventurous people can get worried about it. However, don't forget that if you're not comfortable with trying it out, there's no need to force yourself - nobody should pressure you into doing something against your will.
But if you're enthusiastic about exploring this aspect of intimacy, there are several steps you can take to ensure a pleasurable and secure experience. For further guidance on how to prepare for anal sex, we've created an informative manual just for you!
Step #1: LOTS of research
The concept of engaging in anal sex can be unnerving, particularly with the abundance of misinformation surrounding it. However, by becoming acquainted with what to anticipate beforehand, you can better equip yourself for your initial experience.
If any aspect, such as potential untidiness or psychological effects, causes concern, research and educate yourself on those specific factors. Remember that taking the time to ensure your comfort level and respecting your boundaries is paramount; therefore, if feeling unprepared or hesitant at any point, it's entirely acceptable to postpone or abstain from anal intercourse.
Step #2: Open up to your partner
Prior to attempting anal sex, it is crucial for both you and your partner to have open communication regarding your desires. Obtaining consent is imperative in all sexual activities, and surprising your partner with a new act can result in negative experiences.
Take the time to establish comfort levels together while gradually exploring this intimate experience. In order to create an enjoyable environment for everyone involved, refrain from applying pressure on yourself or your partner into any unwanted actions. Practice empathy by easing into things at a pace that feels comfortable and familiarize yourselves with what can be expected ahead of time as this will guarantee pleasurable results for both parties involved.
Step #3: DIY first
Masturbation is a great way to get familiar with your vulva and learn about different sensations, right? Well, the good news is that it's also a really great way to prepare yourself for anal sex. Use lots of lube and slowly insert your finger into your anus to become familiar with how it feels. Begin with anal fingering at your own pace.
Unlike the vulva, the anus does not self-lubricate, so it is VERY IMPORTANT. As a result, the pain and discomfort of the first time will be significantly reduced, and everything will gradually bring a much more comfortable and pleasant feeling. Anal sex is suitable for water-based lubricants and water-based lubricants are also compatible with condoms and sex toys.
Begin by inserting the smallest bead, and slowly insert more depending on your comfort level. And, we can't say this enough, remember to use lots of lube. The anus doesn't naturally lubricate, so it needs a helping hand. If you're using silicone anal toys (which many of them are), be sure *not* to use silicone lube. Only use water-based lube with silicone toys, otherwise they can become damaged.
Step #4: Uh oh!
When experimenting with anal sex, it's important to address any concerns you may have about potential mess. Preparing through cleaning techniques can help ease your worries. However, it's essential to remember that introducing an object into the anus comes with the risk of encountering fecal matter. If this happens, try not to be too alarmed - becoming more at ease with the possibility can be helpful. One way to overcome any shame or embarrassment surrounding anal messiness is by talking openly with your partner and finding humor in the situation if possible.
Ultimately, if you're interested in exploring anal sex, being mindful of potential mess and how you both feel about it will ensure a more comfortable experience for everyone involved.
However, we recommend taking measures to prevent such mess by using a thorough enema or douching for a more thorough cleaning.
Step #5: Speed is key
If you have followed all of the above steps, you should be emotionally and physically prepared for anal sex with a partner when the time comes. The best way to adjust to the size and sensations without becoming overwhelmed or off-put is to go slowly, whether you're using your penis or a strap-on/dildo.
You can even kick things off with a bang with some lovely rimming to make you as relaxed and ready for penetration as possible.
If you're on the receiving end, walk your partner through what feels good - helping to manage and set the pace. Communicate how it's feeling constantly and check in with each other regularly.
If you're on the giving end, make sure to pay attention to your partner at all times, so that you're on the same page. Take care to listen to and notice their non-verbal cues as well.
And now you relax your body, take a deep breath, exhale slowly and start enjoying!